One of the biggest tests for a couple who’s getting “serious” – but hasn’t quite gotten to the engagement part – is how to handle the holidays. Two families, work parties –there are numerous challenges. Birkat Elyon has worked with couples for years, offering them the most dazzling cubic zirconia engagement and wedding rings. They have more than a few smart ways to handle the curveballs that the holidays can throw at a newly-serious couple. Here are their tips for couples doing their first holiday together.
DECIDE ON YOUR GIFT GIVING POLICY
Have a frank chat (ahead of time) about whether you’ll exchange presents. Also, to avoid any awkwardness, set a limit on what to spend. Nothing worse than giving him a $50 gift card when he’s just handed you a purse worth three times that. Another alternative is to skip the gifts and agree on a post-holiday treat for both of you, like a weekend getaway.
PROVIDE A HOLIDAY “HEADS-UP”
If you’re bringing your new significant other home for the holiday, let them know the house rules ahead of time. This includes tipping him/her off to traditions like the family Christmas carol sing-along. While you’re at it, let him/her know which topics might be “off-limits,” like politics or a drunk uncle. Additionally, find out if your mom (and other family members) plan to give “a little something” to your new significant other. This allows them to reciprocate – and not be embarrassed.
HELP OUT
When staying at his/her parent’s house, chip in to cut down on the usual holiday chaos. Help with dishes, take out the trash, offer to make the drinks. These thoughtful chores have an upside of helping you get to know family members in a more relaxed moment.
HOUSE RULES
Visiting the family requires being more than a little sensitive to the “house rules.” For one, leave the “sexy time” behind. Stick to family-friendly pajamas (meaning: no lingerie). Keep the PDA to a minimum until you know how Mom and Dad will react to any kissy-face stuff. And don’t be a slug: set an alarm so that you’re not the last one up in the morning.
MAKE A GESTURE
If the two of you opt to spend the holidays apart, you can make a sweet gesture (and win points) by sending a gift basket to his/her family. It’s a nice, low-key way to let them know you’re celebrating with them – even if you’re apart.
WORK PARTIES
These are always tricky especially because you don’t know his/her colleagues. Despite the open bar, remember that you’re accompanying your new love to a professional function. Keep it together and monitor the booze intake.
Of course, the holidays are a prime time for “popping the question.” If you need some inspiration that’s both dazzling and affordable, consider Birkat Elyon’s line of high-quality CZ engagement rings. If you’re not quite “there,” we offer a full line of gorgeous jewelry that will make for a unique gift. At any rate, enjoy your holidays!