There are many reasons why women choose to marry the men they do: shared interests, the way he makes them laugh, his handsome looks, his desire to start a family with her and his ability to provide for her are just a few. And why shouldn’t women’s reasons for marrying vary? Everyone has different wants and needs, and without getting too heavy on the nature versus nurture debate, it’s fair to say that many human desires are things we’re born with and can’t change, so why fight them? As long as two adults love each other and are happy together, it’s not really anyone else’s place to judge why they love each other.
Everyone should feel free to be themselves and to marry whomever makes them happy, even if financial security is one of those things that makes them happy. And why shouldn’t it be? All of us, men and women, are stuck in the “rat race” to maximize our earning potential so we can live the kind of lifestyle we want. For women, this is particularly challenging. The gender pay gap in America is very real, with women making only 80 cents for every dollar earned by men in 2015. What’s more, according to Forbes, women tend to suffer far more economically than men do when marriages fail.
Of course, even the wealthiest of people – again, men and women – can be pretty miserable, so it’s probably not a great idea for anyone to marry 100 percent because of money. Just having money is great at first, but in the long run, the majority of us will be unhappy if we don’t have a soulmate to share it with. Ideally, women can find someone whom they truly love, who loves them back and who has the financial means to provide for them.
Argue Less
What’s one thing almost every couple argues about? Money. It’s OK to admit that you’ve had this argument with a significant other; almost all of us have been through it at least a few times. Rare are the couples who have enough money to purchase literally anything they want and feel secure in life, but the more he makes, the fewer worries you’ll both have about stretching those bills. That means fewer fights about paying off your bills, planning for your future and having a little fun in life while you’re at it. And having fewer fights means you’ll have a happier marriage.
Plan Ahead
As we mentioned, it’s normal for couples to think not just about the now, but also about the future. Where will you be in five years? Ten? Twenty? Will you have a family? A house? These are not insignificant questions; these are subjects every married couple needs to think about, and the answers aren’t always easy to come by. This is why most women want a man who has at least some semblance of a plan for the future. Where is his career taking him? Where does he want to be living down the line? Does he think you need a new car soon? What are his plans for taking vacations and enjoying life? You need to ask these questions, and you need him to have good answers to them. He doesn’t need to produce a Power Point deck with an accountant’s attention to financial detail and a marketer’s roadmap for the future, mind you, but he needs to have some sort of idea, and the men with the best ideas are usually those with strong, well-paying careers that are going someplace good.
Share Financial Values
Finding a man with money doesn’t mean you need to be a 1950s-style housewife without much of an idea of your own on how to accumulate, save and spend money, of course. You should still be smart enough to be responsible with your money and to have a viable way of earning your own living to subsidize what your man makes and to protect yourself in case tragedy strikes and your marriage or his career fails. No one wants either of those things to happen, but everyone should be prepared just in case. And if you’re fiscally responsible enough that you already know everything I just wrote, then you already know the importance of sizing up a potential partner’s own fiscal viability. Does he plan to save or invest for the future? Does he have an idea where his career will take him? You don’t need to find some old timer with a whole bunch of zeroes in his bank account – though it’s totally fine if that’s what you do want in life – but you should look for a man who can support himself, help support you and keep you both living comfortably in the future. Everything else in life is a little bit easier when your financial values align in this way.
Cubic Zirconia Engagement Rings
Your man doesn’t have to be a millionaire to support you, or to buy you a beautiful cubic zirconia engagement ring. As long as he’s able to provide a comfortable life, he’ll have more than enough to purchase you a shockingly affordable high-quality cubic zirconia engagement ring.