There’s loving someone, and then there’s being truly, completely, now-and-forever in love with someone until death do you part. If you’re reading this blog post, then we’re going to go ahead and assume that it’s the latter for you – and that’s great! There really is no feeling quite like falling madly in love with someone else and having them fall right back in that same kind of extra special love with you. It’s such an amazing feeling, in fact, that it can almost feel indescribable.
But here’s the thing: you’re going to have to, well, describe it. At least, that’s what you’re going to have to do if you and your partner have chosen to write your own vows. No cheating and pulling quotes from the internet allowed here! Google may seem like it has all the answers, but this is one time in life when it really doesn’t. Only you can really write something that comes from your heart and expresses that kind of never-ending love that made one of you get down on one knee to ask the big question and the other exclaim “Yes!”
Once you do that, you’re committing to each other for the rest of your life, and if you’re ready to make that sort of commitment to someone, then surely you’re ready to commit to writing a minute or two’s worth of words expressing why you’re ready to make that commitment. Deciding whether or not you’re going to write your very own ceremony vows is a decision every bride and groom to-be must make for themselves, and it’s such a crucial decision that it’s probably the very first thing your officiant is going to ask you about once you select him or her. For some loving couples, penning unique vows is a special way to express to each other and everyone in attendance at their wedding just how much they love the person they’re about to say “I do” to, and (again) why they’re saying it.
If you’re still trying to make a decision on if you should write your own vows or not, then there’s a few things you should know. For instance, writing your own vows means there are no rules. OK, we lied. There is one rule: you have to write them yourself and make them come from your heart. But other than that, you can make them whatever you want them to be.
Fancy yourself an amateur modern-day Shakespeare? OK, Mr./Mrs. Iambic Pentameter, time to write the best poetry of your life. Are you more of comedian than a poet? No problem. Show off your comedic chops, just don’t go too overboard. Nobody wants to hear your routine, so focus on something humorous you and your partner have done together or something silly you have in common. You don’t have to go this route or any other one in particular, of course. You can just write what you’re feeling. They’re your vows, so make them, you know, yours.
After all, you know your relationship better than anyone else does, so take advantage of this one and only opportunity to say everything you’re feeling and make whatever promise(s) are most important to the two of you. This can change the feeling of an entire wedding ceremony and show your guests a side of you that they would never otherwise get to see.
And you know what that means, right? It means that whatever you say is going to mean infinitely more to the person you’re about to marry than the generic vows everyone else says. Your other half wants to hear you say what you’re feeling in this moment more than any other, so be bold and lay it all out there.
Now, that doesn’t mean everyone has to write their own vows. Nor does it mean those who do are somehow more in love than those who don’t. It’s not a decision that’s right for every single couple, and there are a few common reasons why that’s the case.
First off, speaking in public isn’t something that comes naturally to everyone. And for some, even practicing over and over again will never be enough to prepare them for this kind of on-the-spot public speaking. Everyone’s greatest talent doesn’t lie with a pen and paper (or a keyboard and word processor). Talk to your bride or groom and make the decision together about what’s right for the two of you. Just don’t stress out too much about it either way – your wedding should be fun!
Cubic Zirconia Jewelry
There’s one other big choice for you to make, but this one comes way before the wedding. You have to decide whether to spend enormous amounts of money on real diamonds, or to save all that cash to spend on your new life together but still get a ring that’s every bit as beautiful by choosing high-quality cubic zirconia jewelry instead. This is another choice that couples will differ on, but keep in mind that Russian Formula cubic zirconia looks as spectacular as the real thing and costs a fraction of the price, which makes buying an engagement ring the stress-free experience it should be.