When you and your partner are waiting for that big walk down the aisle, it’s hard to remember your own name – let alone any wedding vows you may have come up with. Before that, of course, there’s the task of actually writing those vows. There can be so much pressure, so here are some handy tips for writing the perfect wedding vows, courtesy of the experts at Birkat Elyon (purveyor of high quality cubic zirconia wedding rings….and more).
START EARLY
Writing your wedding vows is something that shouldn’t be left to the last minute. Start early sketching out your thoughts and inspiration, so that you have plenty of time to make revisions and make it just perfect.
WHAT’S YOUR “TONE”?
If you’re known for your sense of humor, don’t try to suddenly turn serious. If you’re sentimental, go with that. Be true to who you are. Talk to your partner ahead of your wedding day so that your “tones” work together.
USE “MEMORY LANE”
If you’re feeling a little stuck on creating your wedding vows, reminiscing is a great exercise. Think back to the key moments in your relationship, the ones that are cute, funny, heartwarming – even a little embarrassing Start. Reflecting on these private moments will make your wedding vows unique.
MAKE AN OUTLINE
Sure, it sounds like a homework assignment, but it will help organize your thoughts. Start with a cute or funny anecdote. Then, your thoughts/feelings when you first met. Move on to when you first knew you wanted to be together forever – and where you see your future after the wedding day.
USE FREE ASSOCIATION
If you’re having a hard time getting started, brainstorm. Write down the first few words that come to mind around your feelings for each other, your feeling around your relationship, etc. Just go with what you get.
KEEP IT SHORT AND SWEET
Get out the stopwatch. If you find yourself talking for more than two minutes, edit, edit, and edit. Focus more on speaking your heart to your partner, rather than showing off your prose skills to everyone else. These are your vows, not meant to impress anyone else. Practice ahead of time to get comfortable.
LOOK TO THE FUTURE
Include a promise towards your future goals as a couple. Where do you want to be in ten or twenty years? What do you intend to do to keep your couple’s bond strong? These will anchor your vows.
SPEAK FROM YOUR HEART
It may sound a little corny, but when you’re writing your wedding vows, speaking from the heart it is a simple tip to keep it on track. Keep your “heart” in mind as you draft those important words.
Writing the perfect wedding vows really starts with a clear intention: let your partner (and your guests) know how much he/she means to you, and what you hope your life together will be. That’s the bottom line.
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