Relationships are dizzying, romantic, fun. Once you find your “better half,” life takes on a whole new beautiful dimension. You make big plans, you have a vision for how your future as a happy couple will unfold.
That’s all well and good, but the flip side to all this is: relationships are hard.
No matter how perfect you are for each other, maintaining what brought you together can be tricky in today’s world.
For decades, numerous relationship experts and psychologists have studied the factors that go into maintaining a healthy relationship. We’ve gathered some of their best relationship advice and tips for staying together:
HEALTHY COUPLES MAKE THEIR RELATIONSHIP A PRIORITY
In today’s super-busy world, it’s all-too-easy for partners to focus most of their attention on things like the job or the kids. But the truth is, healthy couples recognize that their relationship is the foundation to all of it. Your partner is your support, so make it a point to connect with them on a daily basis. Make plans to do things together, just the two of you (#babysitter). Treat your partnership as the key to a happy life.
HEALTHY COUPLES KNOW HOW TO GET OVER A FIGHT
OK, so even the best-matched couples will fight. That’s just Life. The trick is to not let a fight derail the other good things in your relationship. Experts note this is the absolute Number One key to a successful partnership.
It all starts with being aware of how the two of you communicate on a daily basis. That requires regularly putting the phone down, turning away from the TV and actually listening to each other. This practice is even more critical after a fight: make a commitment to actively address your disagreement, with the goal of repairing whatever hurt or misunderstanding came of it. Pick a quiet time, avoid raised voices; check your ego. Listen, don’t just wait to jump in.
HEALTHY COUPLES SHARE THE CHORES
We’ve come a long way from the days when women did most of the work around the house. Recent studies show that men have nearly doubled the number of chores they handle compared to past years. However, women still tend to pick up the majority of tasks. Naturally, an uneven distribution of childcare and housework duties can easily lead to a build-up of resentment. Making an arrangement that suits both of you (and sticking to it) will help keep your relationship humming along.
HEALTHY COUPLES TRY NEW THINGS TOGETHER
A 1993 study followed two sets of couples. One was asked to do something new once a week, like trying a ballroom dancing class. Another group was asked to simply do something they’d normally do, like going to a movie. The study revealed that, after 10 weeks, the couples who tried new things were far happier. This reinforces the idea that a little “novelty” injects sparks into a relationship that can easily fall into a stale, predictable routine.
HEALTHY COUPLES SHARE A SIMILAR SENSE OF HUMOR
There’s more than one reason behind the saying, “Laughter is the best medicine.” When it comes to a healthy relationship, a sense of humor is a key ingredient in keeping things on track. Being able to laugh together is one of the most powerful ways for a couple to bond. Experts note that partners who have their own secret language, like inside jokes or little nicknames for each other, are happier and able to better navigate life’s speed bumps.
Despite the challenges that life can present, practicing the above tips will ensure that your journey together remains as joyous as when you first met!
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