So, you’ve declared your commitment to live happily ever after, ‘til death do you part. But let’s face it, marriage can be hard work – no matter how much you adore each other. What are the smartest ways to navigate the ups and downs that every couple goes through? Birkat Elyon has worked with so many couples over the years, providing them with the best quality CZ engagement and wedding rings. Here are great tips, courtesy of some folks whose marriages have endured.
USE HUMOR
Cracking jokes with each other lessens the tension and creates a certain bond. Even when in your “dignified” older age, don’t miss the chance to have a good laugh together. You may find yourself laughing so much you won’t have time to fight.
DON’T BE STUBBORN
If you’re the type who always needs to have the last word, well, long-loving couples are here to tell you that it’s so not worth it. Consider that your partner may have a different perspective or preference. Learn to hold your tongue — but not to hold a grudge.
THINK ABOUT LIFE WITHOUT THEM
This “thought exercise” is a great way to restore some balance to your relationship. Imagine the fun and good times you’d miss out on if your partner hadn’t been around. Or the support you’ve gotten during a rough patch.
DON’T ASSUME ANYTHING
If your spouse is upset or worried about something, don’t assume you know what it is. Neither of you is a mind-reader. Clear communication is essential, but if the time isn’t right to talk, agree to address it later when you’re both more responsive.
KEEP IT INTIMATE
This isn’t just about sex; the little ways you each communicate intimacy are the glue that holds a relationship together. This means a kiss in the morning, turning off your phones at night to just enjoy each other’s company, sending a text during the day to check in, holding hands.
BE GRATEFUL
Gratitude is powerful. Showing true appreciation to your spouse for little things like taking out the trash or big things like a nice gift isn’t just polite, it has a positive ripple effect throughout your relationship.
TELL THEM WHAT YOU NEED
As well as you think you know each other, be clear on what it is you need. If your partner tries to guess, it will make things worse. Be direct.
HONOR AND NURTURE THE FRIENDSHIP
Yes, you’re husband and wife, but you’re also friends. Remember the things that brought you together and interact with each other – not just as a married couple – but as “friends.” Don’t make every conversation about the kids, the mortgage, or where to go on the next vacation; hang out as friends would.
LEARN TO APOLOGIZE
This can be a tough one – but a sincere apology is essential in keeping a relationship healthy. It doesn’t necessarily mean saying that you’re in the wrong, but if your argument resulted in hurt feelings or misunderstandings, owning up to it goes a long way towards healing. Put aside your ego in favor of the bigger picture.