One of the biggest challenges that newly married couples face is in where to spend the holidays. You now have two families; do how do you navigate this tricky territory and keep everyone happy? Birkat Elyon has been providing couples with dazzling CZ engagement and wedding rings since 1985; we’ve heard it all, so here are some pro tips for keeping the holidays peaceful.
First off, understand that butting heads over this issue is completely normal. There are so many emotions in play, from anger to excitement. The way to navigate them is to have an open discussion with your partner, understanding that compromise will be essential on both sides. Relationship experts emphasize that this conversation is one you should have sooner than later; you don’t need the pressure of the holiday season interfering with your ability to tell the families in a timely fashion.
Start by making a list of pros and cons regarding each family and their holiday traditions and expectations; that can make your decisions easier. Work together, viewing this as a problem for the two of you to solve, not a standoff.
Look at what each family does during the holiday season: one may make Thanksgiving a big deal, wanting all of the family to gather; Christmas may be more intimate. In cases like that, that makes the decision easier.
Many couples find taking turns each year a workable solution; be firm in your decision. Or, if you’re into it, consider hosting both families at your own place.
The traditions and history surrounding the holidays with your family run deep, and change is hard. Instead of focusing on what you might be missing out on, look at and appreciate the elements of the holidays that you can still enjoy every year. This also offers an opportunity for a couple to create new holiday traditions that are all your own!
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