It’s wonderful when you feel you’ve found “the one” and are thinking about planning a future together. Romance can be intoxicating. Sometimes, it can cloud your thinking. The jewelry experts at Birkat Elyon, purveyor of high-quality cubic zirconia wedding rings (and cubic zirconia white gold rings), are all about super-serving couples. We’ve gathered some expert tips on how you know you’re really, truly ready to get married.
YOU DON’T EXPECT YOUR PARTNER TO CHANGE
Too often, one half of the couple overlooks certain troubling issues with their partner. They may think that marriage is “the thing” that will change certain behaviors, especially problematic ones. Nobody is perfect, and compromise is important – but if it’s one-sided, and one person thinks that tying the knot is a Magic Bullet to cure a serious issue – well, that’s just a warning sign that trouble is waiting down the road. Couples who accept their partner for who they are (again, outside of nagging problems) are statistically more likely to happily endure.
YOU’VE HAD “THE MONEY TALK”
No doubt about it, money is a major issue among couples. Talking about finances is considered to be among the most awkward of topics, but if you can’t have a frank conversation with your partner about attitudes, goals and more, you may find things even more awkward. Both of you should be clear about your debts, loans, income and spending habits. Ensure that this major step is taken before taking any steps down the aisle.
YOU KNOW HOW TO ARGUE…CONSTRUCTIVELY
When things get a little heated, it can be tempting to storm out. The mark of a strong couple is the ability to find a way to dial it back and work things out. It’s also the mark of a mature couple for each one to know when to look the other in the eye and apologize if they’re in the wrong.
YOUR VALUES ARE ALIGNED
Your partner is not your identical twin (that would be… weird), but you should share some fundamentals. Even if your religious or cultural beliefs are different, you find ways to blend them. You know what rings as “right” and “wrong” – and you resonate to the same chord. Then there are things like whether you want kids, ideas around family, etc. If one of you is way off the page on these things, you may need to take a closer look at the non-negotiables in your relationship and have some honest discussions. By the way, if you think that sacrificing something important to you will somehow make your relationship work over the long term, think again. There’s a huge gap between healthy compromise… and giving up what’s most meaningful.
YOU GET THE TRUE MEANING OF “COMMITMENT”
By their very nature, relationships evolve. Who you are in your twenties will not be who you are in your sixties. Couples who understand the “long-haul” qualities of commitment early on are more likely to sustain the ups and downs that necessarily show up over the years. Hopefully, you and your partner have been together long enough or weathered a few storms to know what lies down the road. Even better, you’re willing and eager to share those bumps; that’s a precursor to a long, happy marriage.
Whether you’re looking to start your life together with a gorgeous (and smartly-affordable) cubic zirconia wedding ring set….or down the road, to gift your partner with a special piece of jewelry (from CZ earrings to a classy men’s cubic zirconia ring). Birkat Elyon has it covered.