So, you’ve slipped on that gorgeous CZ wedding ring, had the big party, and the great honeymoon. Now what? Birkat Elyon has been working with couples since the ‘80s, providing them with exceptionally beautiful cubic zirconia engagement and wedding rings. So, we know a few things about keeping your marriage blissful. Here are some of the best tips we’ve heard over the years.
PUT YOURSELF FIRST
Yes, it sounds counterintuitive, but it makes sense. If you attend to your own needs, you won’t put pressure on your partner to take care of them. Because when they don’t, well, you know how THAT goes. Pursue your own interests, do things without your partner. That keeps you more fulfilled, plus more interesting in your relationship.
CHECK IN EACH DAY
Take a few moments at the end of each day to check in with each other. This can provide valuable context for why someone’s in a bad mood or short-tempered. You’ll understand that it’s not related to anything that you’ve done, so it won’t create another misunderstanding.
BRING UP SMALL THINGS BEFORE THEY GET BIGGER
Rather than quietly stewing because your partner leaves dishes in the sink, say it before it becomes a bigger grudge. However, balance that out by remembering five things you appreciate about them. Remembering that 5-1 rule and addressing those little irritations in a timely way will keep things running smoothly. Sweeten the request with one of the five things.
SET YOUR BOUNDARIES
You hear this one a lot, but what does it mean? A helpful guideline is, what’s the distance at which you can love both your partner AND yourself at the same time? This helps you maintain your own identity and not have expectations for your partner that they may not be able to fulfill.
SKIP SOCIAL MEDIA COMPARISONS
The stories that other couples tell on their social media aren’t what they appear. Yes, everything looks perfect, with pictures of happy kids, great vacations, and the like. But that’s not reality. Don’t gauge your marriage by what you see on a feed somewhere.
THINK ABOUT POKER
Whenever you need a favor from your partner, think in terms of $100 poker chips. Before you ask, take a moment to judge if the “ask” is worth a $100 chip. That helps you slow down and really determine if it’s worth it. It also lets your partner know that you’ve given it real thought and aren’t just assuming they’ll go along.
As long as we’re talking money and value, remember that Birkat Elyon are the experts in all kinds of beautiful – but affordable – CZ jewelry pieces. For an anniversary gift or any other occasion, shop our selection!