With engagement rings, we often think the element of surprise is fundamental. Asking for a woman’s hand in marriage is even commonly called “popping the question.” The secretiveness of this custom puts a man in the somewhat awkward position of buying his soon-to-be fiancée a ring without any input from her on its cost or style.
Should you ask her?
As we have previously mentioned in this blog, many women prefer cubic zirconia to diamonds, considering the latter a frivolous expense in a tough economy. Similarly, sometimes a woman is disappointed that a man chooses an engagement ring without consulting her on its style. When the man offers the ring, she may be embarrassed to tell him (after the fact, of course) that she doesn’t like the style.
Many of our customers are women who have gotten married and are dissatisfied with their engagement rings. They encountered our site while searching online for a replacement ring. When they find our website, they get excited that they can buy a ring that they like without having to worry about the cost.
Tips for buying without asking her
Even though many women get frustrated when they aren’t consulted about the engagement ring, you still may prefer that it be a surprise. If that’s the case, the following tips will make it more likely that you buy the right ring:
- Listen to her – Usually a woman has some sense that a marriage proposal is coming in the near future. Because that’s the case, she may start to drop hints about the type of engagement ring she would prefer. For instance, she might mention how she appreciates her friend’s ring because it’s not excessively flashy. Pay attention, and don’t ignore what you hear.
- Ask for help – A great way to gather information about what kind of engagement ring your future bride might like is her friends. Consider asking one of them for ideas. You might want to even meet with one of her friends at a coffeehouse and look at some ring options together online.
- Put her first – Whatever you do, don’t buy the ring that you want to buy. Buy the one that you think she will enjoy wearing for the rest of her life.
- Test the waters – Even if you don’t buy the ring as a couple, you could spend some time looking through different design options with her to see which kinds she likes best. This tactic removes some of the secrecy, but it also limits the chances that your wife will seek a replacement ring once you’ve tied the knot.
Professional assistance
You can also check with us to get expert advice on the styles that are currently the most popular, as well as classic designs preferred by many women for decades. All of the best cubic zirconia (Russian formula) stones for our engagement rings are hand-cut, hand-polished, and set in pure platinum or solid 14K/18K gold.
By Kent Roberts