When you’re taking the big step of moving in together, there’s always the question of “stuff.” You have yours, your significant other (SO) has theirs. There may be questions of conflicting tastes (like a collection of beer cans from college or the stuffed animals carted around since childhood) or space; whatever it is, merging your belongings can be a stressful moment for couples. Birkat Elyon has worked with hundreds and hundreds of them over the years, providing them with the most dazzling, quality cubic zirconia engagement and wedding rings; here are expert tips for blending your belongings.
TAKE STOCK
It’s likely you have duplicates of things, like kitchen stuff, furniture, decorative items (like large rugs), and electronics. It doesn’t make sense to move it all, so start with an inventory. It’s a great opportunity to offload things to a charity. Plus, if you’re getting married, this exercise lets you know what you’d like added to your registry. If you both want to keep your big flat-screen TVs, make sure you have a place to put them.
CHECK YOUR SPACE
One of the main drivers of how much stuff to keep is how big the space is that you’re moving into. For example, a smaller bedroom may not fit his king-size bed but is perfect for your queen size. If it still comes down to a coin toss, consider these other factors: whose item is in better condition, and which one is the better quality? In other words, keep the higher-quality set of knives, donate or ditch the other one.
COMPROMISE
Merging your things gets a little complicated when your SO is moving into your place. You’re used to your own style and having things in certain places. First thing you do? Start thinking of it as “our” place. Rearrange the layout. Make space in the closet. Move some of your furniture to make room for theirs. Of course, if you’re the one moving in, ask for the same courtesies.
Face it, moving can be stressful under the best of circumstances, so if tensions are rising, take a break. Go out to dinner, take in a movie – anything to step away from the tension (and the unpacked boxes). But remember that “compromise” is key to any strong relationship. Reimagine your space as one for both of you, not just for you: that opens up all kinds of possibilities, not just in your space but in your relationship, too.
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