You could be that couple that all your friends call “perfect.” Sure, it all looks great to the rest of the world, but the truth is, every couple deals with tensions and issues. Living together can be hard, with different tastes, interests, family members and the stresses of everyday life. Even the happiest couple can benefit from these smart relationship rules to help navigate those hiccups. For over three decades, Birkat Elyon has worked with hundreds of couples, offering them smart, affordable CZ engagement and wedding rings. They’ve heard allll the stories –so here are great tips for a happy relationship.
SAY SOMETHING NICE EVERY DAY
Give more than one (sincere) compliment to your partner each day and make them as specific as possible. “I loved that dinner you made last night,” “You’re so reliable. I’m glad I can count on you.” Another thing: make sure that the positive comments outweigh the criticism, by a lot.
KEEP A LITTLE MYSTERY
Sure, it feels comfortable to know everything about your partner. But one of the things that originally drew you to each other was the “discovery.” So do some things just for yourself: a class, a group, a new hobby. Sharing those new interests with your partner will keep some “sizzle” in the relationship.
MANAGE THE CRITICISMS
Relationship experts suggest biting your tongue and letting most criticisms go by, sticking to all but the biggest issues. In those cases, keep the criticism as short as possible, as in three sentences or less. Any more will feel like “piling on.”
ACCEPT THE APOLOGY – IN WHATEVER FORM
Some people have trouble offering up a verbal apology. Demanding one only puts on more pressure. But its entirely possible that they’ll show that they want to reconnect or defuse the tension by bringing you flowers, doing some extra chores, whatever. Take those olive branches and move on. (Of course, an unexpected gift is a great way to smooth the waters. Birkat Elyon has a full line of dazzling cubic zirconia jewelry pieces for men and women.)
MANAGE THE TECHNOLOGY
It’s no secret that our devices are making us more isolated from one another. Make some rules about their place in your life as a couple, such as, not while you’re eating, not in the bedroom, not when you have guests, etc. Remember that connecting on “human” terms is essential.
SMALL STUFF COUNTS
In a way, everyday stuff is “the coin of the realm” when it comes to relationships. Think of it: how annoyed do you or your partner get when the trash isn’t taken out or the wet towels remain on the bathroom floor? When you agree to do something about those “small things,” do them. Honoring those little tasks goes a long way in keeping the peace.