{"id":1657,"date":"2016-11-10T23:14:18","date_gmt":"2016-11-11T04:14:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.birkatelyon.com\/blog\/?p=1657"},"modified":"2018-09-04T14:55:13","modified_gmt":"2018-09-04T18:55:13","slug":"tips-for-maintaining-a-healthy-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.birkatelyon.com\/blog\/tips-for-maintaining-a-healthy-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Tips for Maintaining a Healthy Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Cubic<\/a><\/p>\n

Marriage is hard. Sorry to be a Debbie Downer, but it\u2019s the truth. It\u2019s not easy to remain at the same level of enthusiasm, patience, calm and empathy you had on the day you met your love for every single day for the rest of your life. You have to work at it, and even then, every single day will never be perfect.<\/p>\n

But, most days can be pretty good \u2013 really good, even! Here are six tips for making your marriage a good one. Check them out and come back next month when we\u2019ll have six more for you.<\/p>\n

Say Thanks for the Small Stuff<\/strong><\/p>\n

Who\u2019s given the most over the course of\u00a0your marriage? And who\u2019s given the most recently? You\u2019re probably keeping a running tally of it, right? That\u2019s normal \u2013 but it\u2019s not great. In fact, you should probably stop keeping score if you\u2019re doing it. As you\u2019re likely aware, it\u2019s immature, and it\u2019s not going to get you anywhere good. Forget about who cleaned the bathroom last, made the most trips to the grocery store this month or who moved to accommodate whose work or family. Only fighting lies down that road. Instead, focus on keeping track of the positive things you\u2019ve done for each other and say thank you for them! That sort of thing is contagious, and it\u2019s a great way to foster a healthy marriage.<\/p>\n

Consider How <\/em>You Fight<\/strong><\/p>\n

Do you fight a lot? Of course you do. You\u2019re in a serious relationship, and couples fight. No one likes to admit that they do this frequently, but everyone does. When trying to improve things and avoid fights, ruminate not on what you fight about or on how often you do it, but on how it is that you\u2019re fighting. Are you constantly calling each other names and tossing out personal attacks during your arguments? If so, it\u2019s a habit you should try to break, as those types of fights tend to spiral out of control and lead to unhappiness. Instead, try keeping your voices low, making eye contact and asking open-ended questions about what each of you should do next to make things better.<\/p>\n

Accept the Ups and Downs<\/strong><\/p>\n

Marriage isn\u2019t perfect. Why? Because people and life aren\u2019t perfect, and marriage is the life of two people together. Everyone has ups and downs in their life, so don\u2019t expect marriage to be nothing but all-time-great highs. Some days you won\u2019t be able to imagine possibly being away from your spouse for more than five minutes. Others\u2026well, maybe you won\u2019t want to spend more than five consecutive seconds<\/em> around them. Hey, it happens. We\u2019ve all been there. Do your best to maximize and enjoy the high points and minimize the low ones, but don\u2019t ever expect to eliminate them, because no one ever has.<\/p>\n

Let Bygones Be Bygones<\/strong><\/p>\n

Because we all fight and all have low points, all married couples have a history of some things they wish they hadn\u2019t said or done. Pro tip: forget about it. Reopening old wounds and using past mistakes and arguments as ammunition in current debates is a bad idea. If you frequently drudge up negativity from the past, at least one of you will grow to resent the other.<\/p>\n

Take Care of Yourself<\/strong><\/p>\n

There are many reasons people marry one another, but appearances are almost always at least some part of the equation. Over the course of a marriage, your looks are going to fade some thanks to mean ol\u2019 Father Time. You\u2019ll get some wrinkles, some grays and some extra pounds with time. It stinks, but it happens to all of us and is going to continue happening unless someone finally finds the Fountain of Youth. Barring that unlikelihood, your best bet is to keep up with your looks as best you can. Brush your teeth and your hair. Dress nice. Eat well. Exercise. Ladies, do your makeup. And by the way, if your partner does keep up with his\/her looks, be sure to take notice and compliment them to encourage them to continue doing so.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t Cut Each Other Off<\/strong><\/p>\n

Most of us like to hear ourselves talk, or at least feel like we\u2019re being heard. We like getting the first and last word. We like getting the best \u2013 in our own opinion \u2013 word and we hate being talked over. Of course, that means we should avoid talking over each other. Many couples have trouble letting each other finish their thoughts before cutting in with their own. Try to let your husband or wife speak for a few moments at least before you jump in and interrupt. That way, you\u2019ll at least understand what they\u2019re trying to say, and they\u2019ll feel at least reasonably, if not completely, heard.<\/p>\n

Cubic Zirconia Engagement Rings<\/strong><\/p>\n

Every great marriage starts the same way: someone asks someone they love to marry them. When you ask for your love\u2019s hand, be ready to put something on it that\u2019s as beautiful as it is affordable: a cubic zirconia engagement ring<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Marriage is hard. Sorry to be a Debbie Downer, but it\u2019s the truth. It\u2019s not easy to remain at the same level of enthusiasm, patience, calm and empathy you had on the day you met your love for every single day for the rest of your life. You have to work at it, and even then, every single day will never be perfect. But, most days can be pretty good…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1659,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\nTips for Maintaining a Healthy Marriage | Cubic Zirconia Engagement Ring<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"How do you keep your marriage on track? 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